"if you can look at another black woman, and not criticize her. not judge her clothing, her hair, her skin. her body. her speech. her manner. if you can see her, and feel a yes in your eyes. an exhale. an acknowledgment of your being. a tenderness and pride in your breathe. this is when you know you are no longer seeing her. yourself. with the eyes of racism. when you will know that your eyes are yours again."